Rafiq the Emcee
 
As usual I was going thru my day working, tweeting, facebooking, etc. when I
received an email saying "Your Invited to the 2nd Annual Go Red for Women
Cocktails for a Purpose". Now I must admit my first thought was Valentine's Day is over so this must be a mistake. I opened the email to learn I was invited to "RSVP for an Evening of Cocktails for a Purpose”. This wasn't a late Valentine's Day invitation mishandled by my email provider but an invitation to the 2nd Annual Benefit for the American Heart Association’s Go Red for Women Campaign. I knew this was an event I didn't want to miss. I matched my red tie with my suit and was ready to go.
I arrived at the 191 Peachtree Tower in midtown Atlanta and proceeded to head to The Commerce Club on the 49th floor, . The choice of venue was on par with the seriousness of the event. Once entering the room I was greeted with a thank you for attending and big smile by Audra Cunningham Co-Host of the event. After grabbing my favorite beverage, cranberry juice, and light Hors d'oeuvres it was time to learn about why we were invited and what could we do to help.
Miss Audra Cunningham, who has recently moved from Atlanta to Washington D.C., welcomed us to the event and explained the flow of tonight’s event. She went on to tell us about the Go Red for Women campaign, in conjunction with the American Heart Association. In 2004, the American Heart Association (AHA) faced a challenge.
Cardiovascular disease claimed the lives of nearly 500,000 American women each year, yet women were not paying attention. In fact, many even dismissed it as an “older man’s disease.” To dispel the myths and raise awareness of heart disease as the number one killer of women, the American Heart Association created Go Red For Women – a passionate, emotional, social initiative designed to empower women to take charge of their heart health. Atlanta has the largest Circle of Red organization in the country. Circle of Red is a group of individuals in the local areas who have contributed significant resources and influence in support of the American Heart Association’s Go Red For Women® Campaign.
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Miss Cunningham introduced the events’ other co-host Mrs. Regina Mixon Bates to the attendees. Mrs. Bates shared with us her personal story of how she came to participate in the Go
Red campaign and how heart disease affected her life. She shared with us very daunting statistics and facts. We learned too many women die each year because they don't know heart disease is their No. 1 killer. Heart disease is the number 1 cause of death among women 20 and older, killing about one woman a minute. 90% of women have one or more risk factors for developing heart disease. More women die of heart disease than the next four causes of death combined.

 
 
Valentine's evening night I attended the Bilal concert at Center Stage in Atlanta presented by Muddy Water. What's that I hear? Valentine's Day and Bilal now that's how you seal the day. One, I'm single and two, I accompanied four women. Shout out to Mitsah, Yolanda, Gernelle (D!PS) and Denitia for allowing me to tag along with them. I also figured “SHE” may be in the crowd but I digress.
I arrived at Center Stage, picked up my ticket at Will Call and headed in to
find a seat. I think we all can appreciate going to an event that is stress-free
from parking to getting to your seats. It sets the mood for the rest of the
night.
The Center Stage is a cool venue for a semi-intimate affair. Not a lounge but
not a big arena venue  either.
Upon entering the arena area we were greeted by DJ Salah,Turntable Shaman & Body Motivation Specialist, playing music and welcoming the crowd to the event. He is the type of DJ the 35 and older crowd would follow to any event  he is DJ'ing. He is just that good. DJ Salah played the kind of songs that makes you say "Yo that was my jawn" as you bob your head to the beats.
Now the test of any event is what time will they really start? To my surprise
they kicked off close to the advertised 8 p.m. start time. The two dancers, very
nimble and sensual with their moves, who were dancing to DJ Salah's musical
muse, gave way to the emcee for the evening. A tall fine woman who wore her
dress like she imagined, created, and birthed the materials, by the name Ms.
Jodine
. She got the crowd composed of about 60% couples, 39% single women and 1% single men hyped for the night’s performers.
First up Mr. Rudy Currence out of Rock Hill, S.C. I've met Mr. Currence a few times while I was hosting events and at my birthday party in Charlotte N.C. He is a very humble and polite person. Meeting him you wouldn't think he's soul music's next star whose also signed to DTP. For those unaware, DTP is a record label and group owned by rapper/actor Ludacris. Rudy Currence has appeared on BET's 106 and Park and is featured on several prominent albums. He started off  his set warming up his fingers on the keyboard showing off his musical skillz. During his short but energetic set he sang original songs, impersonated Tank and The Dream, performed a gospel song and sang a song for Kendra who was in the audience. Rudy Currence is a force to be reckoned with. Below is audio of a part of his performance. Please forgive me Mr. Currence for only providing audio of your performance. The video quality was too poor to do you justice.
After a short 15 minute intermission next up was Rahbi Raw. If you are like me in thinking who or what is a Rahbi Raw? Ask no further. Human dynamo are two words among others which come to mind. He was intro’ed to the stage by two women wearing red, the theme color of his set to go with Valentine’s Day, flinging rose petals ala “Coming to America.” This wasn't the King of Zamunda arriving but the King of Showtime dressed in an outfit with red and white colored angel wings attached to it. My mouth immediately dropped and I was like WTH am I in for? Rahbi Raw was known to most in the crowd and was cheered like he played on a sports team. He opened with a dancer who moved her body in erotic and very flexible ways. This set the tone for his set. His last song included Madam CJ, a diva in her own right. I was glad I wasn't on a date because I surely would have been in trouble due to the eye candy in Rahbi's crew. It's great to see an artist whose set includes women for more than just dancing. The two women background singers were very talented and the ode to Teena Marie was nicely done. Comparisons to Prince are easy to make but I don't want to cheapen the experience or Rahbi's gift to the music world. Yes he was inspired by Prince but Rahbi Raw is his own man. His stage presence and singing ability has him in an essence of his own. From what I was told, his performance was tame compared to others and I will have to see that for myself. Though he is based in Atlanta, he has performed all over the world. If he is ever in your area, go see him. Below is a video of his performance.
 
 
I decided to write this due to years of questions, stereotypes and thoughts on being a single father.  When I say I am single and have a daughter the first question I’m usually asked is “How often do you see her?”  I love saying EVERYDAY! The looks I have received ranged from funny to amazed. In our house we celebrate Fothers (Father-Mothers) Day and Mathers (Mother-Fathers) day.
Let's start from the beginning.  No not that beginning, if you are reading this
I am sure you know how babies are created. I was at my daughter’s blessed birth cutting the umbilical cord and experiencing the miracle of birth up close and personal. Much love goes out to the staff at Queens Anne Medical Center Oahu, Hawaii.
There were negative reactions from day one when I told people I wanted to raise my daughter alone. People intimated whether my daughter would survive without her mother or if she would be a happy child. I found this kind of ironic. People are always saying men should step up to the plate (especially black men) and when i did (insert sarcasm here).  I believe this along with not being able to picture another man being a father and raising my daughter were two of several factors which sealed my choice to raise my daughter sans her mother. It would have been a much easier choice to be a single guy in Hawaii just paying child support living the carefree life.
While on my single father journey I've been asked many questions some normal and some I found a little crazy:
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    What happened (why didn’t you marry her mother)?
    It didn’t work out.
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     Why did you take her from her mother?                                               
     This question was asked by a female who felt I had no right to raise my daughter and that it’s a mothers job not a fathers.  To answer her question I assured her I did not snatch her away from her mother and we weren’t on the run.  I informed her I went to court for joint custody first and then went thru the legal process for full custody.  I don’t think she liked my  answer and it didn't change her views on who should raise children. 
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    Why don’t more men apply for custody (aka step up to the plate)?           I cannot speak for every man. When my daughter was born there were many prejudices formed by judges along with society. Children were awarded to the  mother and men paid child support. Heck it even almost happened in my case  but I fought for my daughter against the prejudicial system and won.  Some men are worried about getting into a she/he said dirty laundry battle at the custody hearing so why bother.
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    Did/do you brush her hair, change her diaper and buy her clothes? These seem like crazy questions to me.  OF COURSE I DO.
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    Where is she? 
    This question was popular when I was at club or social event.  Do men ask women where their child(ren) are and who is watching them? If I said none of your business would I have been an  ass? I would usually say she is being cared for by my support system.
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    Can you cook? 
    YES!! I could cook and bake before my daughter was born but I would
    think any parent would want and know how to cook to provide nutritional meals for their child(ren) if not themselves.
 
 
Yaaay my first Blog post. Welcome.  A couple of weeks ago I was perusing my Facebook Timeline(TL) and saw, via the Atlanta Dream profile, there was a Daddy Daddy Daughter Date Nite being sponsored by Chick-Fil-A. Anyone who knows me knows I am addicted to Chick-Fil-A's lemonade and their Waffle Potatoe Fries. I am also the foursquare mayor of 2 Chick-Fila-A's. I went to the Chick-Fil-A site and signed up for our appointment at a local store. Immediately I received an email informing me our appointemt was locked in.
As my daughter, affectionately known as the Golden Child, and I pulled up to Chick-Fil-A I had no idea what to expect. We walked in and saw they had transformed a section of the store into a Pink themed 4-star(Chick-Fil-A version) dining pleasure.  We were greeted by the Owner of the store, Mike Ridzon, who immediately said to call him Mike.
We were seated at a table adorned with pink table clothes, roses, a rose
lollipop, a menu and a questionnaire.
The questionnaire was more to break the ice for a stimulating conversation with your date. I believe it was for dads new to dating of their daughter(s). I've been dating my daughter since she was 16 mos so we pretty much had the banter going.  The fathers and daughters seemed to enjoy themselves as there were smiles and laughter abound.  The staff was very professional and courteous even more than usual.  Think your normal visit to Chick-Fil-A times 3.